Gentle Honesty

I like to help others. Although its important for me to remember not everyone always wants to be helped at the particular time I decide to do this. Sometimes what I consider helpfulness, is not viewed by others in the same light. What was meant to be helpful advice or gentle honesty comes across to the other person as hurtful or unwelcome advice or assistance. I am unsure how to react in a healthy way when this has happened. I find myself withdrawing and having hurt feelings for saying something or doing something that was considered inappropriate by the other individual. Maybe by typing it out, I can let it rest in my mind and get some sleep.